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2011-12-24T13:35:00.000-05:00

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Top Ten Reasons I Wrote Trinity's Hope #4

2011-12-10T17:06:00.001-05:00

Hey There,

I hope all is well with you and yours! I'm taking a moment out of my busy holiday preparations to share my reason #4 for writing Trinity's Hope.

It's simply one word...Family!

As we embrace the holiday season, for me, this is a time to embrace family ~ those here with us, those who live on in our memories and those we bring into the fold and claim as our blood. I simply believe that with each life we encounter, we leave something as we pass. Call it a lasting impression or a piece of ourselves, we all leave a residue of our spirit behind, imprinted on that person. Whether the meeting is fleeting or becomes a memorable touch that we store in our hearts for a lifetime, every one has the potential to do some good.

Yes, loving, touching, embracing and cherishing are things we must do every day and especially during this season. These familial relationships, these divine connections and wonderful, unique opportunities for interdependence are all vital to our spiritual and emotional well-being.

This was something that I was taught as a child, in word and in deed by the multi-cultural, multi-generational, multi-layered family I grew up in. On any given holiday, my grandmother's dining room table would be occupied with faces that mirrored the rainbow of God's creation. African-American and Caucasian, Japanese and Haitian, Philippine, Middle Eastern and Native American faces were all a part of the patchwork of my upbringing. It was the norm to eat fried chicken, teriyaki shrimp, oxtails and lumpia all on the same plate while decifering the meanings of multi-lingual conversations going on around me. I learned to embrace the flavor of each individual life, history and culture as my family.

And to this day I still revel in the joy of that diversity....My Family :-)

This concept of family has a wide and varied meaning for different people. It represents those with whom we share a home and those with whom we share a love that cannot be diminished in spite of the time and distance that separates us. Family speaks of the common union that connects us generation to generation. It speaks of the legacy that we are called to establish ~ the hopes and dreams for greatness that we pass on to those God has given us the task to raise. Family is the bond that hold us together and binds our hearts with our shared history and the foundations upon which we build our lives and our faith.

Family teaches us to love one another while accepting our faults, weaknesses and shortcomings. It teaches us the meaning of standing for another; sheltering them and shouldering the responsibility for their care, their feelings and the strength of our relationship. Giving this unconditional love and support is our pleasure, our challenge and our reasonable service, on a daily basis and at this special time of year.

The eternal spirit of the Family ~ the voice of our ancestors, whisper to us to set aside grudges, past hurts, the busyness of life and come together ~ to gather, to share, to embrace, to recollect and recount our story, our history so each generation will know from whence they came.

This portrait, my vision of family is what lies at the heart of Trinity's Hope and all the stories I write. It's that precious thing of beauty that I carry in my heart that keeps me grounded, hopeful and ever-aware of the legacy that rests upon my shoulders. It was eight years ago, that our heads rested together on her pillow, as my Grandmother Irene slipped into glory. Yet I still hear her voice encouraging me to do my best work and live my best life. Her gentle urging to "Make us proud, baby" is all the motivation I need to strive to operate in a spirit of excellence.

When the journey gets long and the weariness sets in, I imagine her cheering from among the great cloud of witnesses, prodding me to run on and see what the end will be ~ the same way Trinity's family cheers for her as she runs her race. For that's what Family does. We see the potential in one another and we get behind that baby of ours and push them with all we have in us. I learned this art form from the last generation and I'm passing it to the next.

In the same way, we pass on the holiday traditions of making Granny's cornbread dressing and giving our child the honor of hanging our Granddaddy's Christmas ornament on the tree. The one he made the year his dad taught him to carve a piece of art from a piece of dry wood....creating something from nothing ~ a skill that child will need in his life.

So I pass this essence of family on to my readers along with all my love, wishes, hopes and dreams for a blessed New Year.

God bless and keep you and yours during this Christmas season!

Blessings Always,

Melissa & Family

Top Ten Reasons I Wrote Trinity's Hope #5

2011-11-10T14:20:00.001-05:00

Hello There!

Time to share another peek into this creative mind - a place some may want to visit, but I assure you, it's not somewhere you'd want to live. But that's another story for another day... :-)

Reason #5 for writing my first novel, Trinity's Hope was something I discovered during the writing of the first manuscript and it actually came as a surprise to me. As I learned to release my literary voice and let my writing gift flow, I realized that there was a lot more to the Carondolette Family story than just one book.

As I told Trinity's story, reaching deep to put her "feelings" into words, I began hearing the voices of other family characters who all had a story to tell. At that time, Destiny, Trinity's older sister, was making her presence known in a very real way. Now for those of you who aren't writers or you tend to approach life from a more analytical place, rest assured, I don't actually "hear" voices. However, I am able to "see" a story line from various perspectives and put a "voice" those multiple points of view.

In other words, Trinity thinks about relationships and men from the mindset of a shy young woman who's more concerned about not making mistakes than enjoying life. Destiny, on the other hand, is older, wiser and has a more outgoing personality. She's usually the life of the party, the center of attention and the one every guy wants to get with. She's gregarious, fun-loving and a bit of a flirt, while Trinity is reserved, introspective and a little on the snobbish side. With these opposing personalities, these sisters take very different paths as they experience love and romance. The good thing for me, and my loyal following of readers, is that these contrasting characters, mindsets and viewpoints on life and love provide a wide range of story ideas to explore and develop. And that's a very good thing for a novice writer.

One of the biggest fears many writers face, once they finish that first manuscript, is the challenge of doing it again. No one wants to be a one-hit wonder or an overnight success that fizzles by the end of the very next day. Developing name recognition and building a solid fan base are keys to longevity in this business and longevity equals success. If a writer gives the readers what they love and then continue to deliver with subsequent works, the relationship between author and readers can grow until it becomes a priceless source of support for that writer. Why?

Simply put...Word of Mouth!

When people love something, they talk about it. And if they hate something, they tend to ~~complain~~ talk about it as well. What's worse is that they'll forget about it altogether and even the crickets will observe a moment of silence at the death of your literary career.

Your first work can be amazingly fabulous and keep people talking for years. But if your successive novels are convoluted, predictable or they fail to deliver with the same authenticity and excitement as the first book, readers will readily forget you and your books. If a writer's work doesn't remain fresh, relevant and engaging, rumbles of dissatisfaction will rise up from your readership, causing book sales will slide lower and lower until they all but disappear. Past loyalty or not, readers will go in search of something and someone that satisfies their literary needs. And when this happens, a once promising or even a well-established career can virtually flat-line. Getting lost in the obscurity of mediocrity is the kiss of death to a writing career...even the career of a seasoned writer.

God knows, I don't want to be a flash in the pan and I certainly don't want to be thought of as an author who just couldn't cut it. The message I have to share ~ love and romance the way God intended, is much too important to let die.

Too many women struggle with sexual sin. Too many need healing from broken hearts and lack the ability to trust men. Too many are stuck in the past and seriously doubt that they'll ever experience true and genuine love that can last a lifetime.

I believe in the power of love too strongly to let this climate persist! I just can't do it! So I press in, stretch myself, research, study, work hard, write, rewrite, edit, dream and rewrite some more in order to produce the best possible work I can. Thankfully, the hard work, prayer and perseverance is beginning to pay off and I'm finally seeing my dreams come to pass!

Now that I've accomplished my goal of writing my first book, Trinity's Hope and my second novel, Destiny's Journey is on the market (and getting rave reviews), I'm feeling steadier on my feet and I have a better idea of what it takes to create a great novel. My new goal is to build stability and longevity in my career as a writer.

With that in mind, I'm proud to announce my third novel, Destiny's Promise will be released November 2012! Yay!!!

(And just so you know, three more novels are currently in production; Covering Grace, Trinity's Faith and a sixth novel, Kelsie's Freedom will soon follow. Music to my ears!)

So if you haven't read Trinity's Hope and/or Destiny's Journey, you're just in time to take advantage of my website special. Two personally autographed copies are available to purchase as a set...at a discount! You can start your collection of the Carondolette Family Series today by visiting my website - www.writtenwork.net and clicking on the novels page.

Happy Reading!

Melissa

The Shift

2011-09-17T03:01:00.000-04:00

September 11, 2011

A definite shift as taken place in the spirit realm. This shift has created a change in our spiritual foundation - a new step, a higher level that wasn't there before. This shift marks an elevation in the lives of those who've been appointed to go higher in this season. In the spirit this looks like a chunk of concrete that has been raised up about a foot higher than the surrounding ground. The problem is some of these people who God is moving up have one foot on the new, higher level and the other foot on the old, lower ground. They are stuck in transition – stuck between the old and the new, uncertain about moving forward while struggling with leaving the past behind. They feel the shifting, but they’re struggling with the release.

God says, "It's time to make a decision to let go of the old, embrace the new and Come Up Higher. For I have need of you – to tap into your gifts and draw from your anointing. I need to make a withdrawal from the investments I’ve made in your life over the years. As you step up, you will begin to experience broader dimensions of anointing, ministry and manifestations of my power and glory. There are impartations of grace and greater depths of wisdom awaiting you as you move to this next level. Much of these impartations will come as you seek me and some will come as you move into the midst of those who are operating at this higher level.”

Yes, this is your season, but to experience all this, you've got to take that step and move on up, firmly planting both feet where God has ordained you to walk - fully accepting this promotion and all that it entails.

In order to do this, you’ve got to release those attitudes, ideas and fears that have held you back and release those people who are not ready or able to move with you. You can see the new level and you desire to go there, but you keep looking back at the place where you were, longing to be in that comfort zone where your old friends and spiritual buddies reside. But you can’t stay there. You will no longer feel comfortable there because the shift has occurred. You can no longer hang out in those places of passionless mediocrity while secretly crying out for change in your prayer closet. That place of mediocrity will never change, because it’s a breeding ground for compromise, complacency and disobedience. It’s the place where half-hearted commitments, people pleasing and serving the flesh are acceptable and business as usual.

But because you have desired more of God, you required more of yourself, and God has changed you in the midst of that tainted environment. He’s heard your cries and He’s seen your obedience. He’s honored by your sacrifices and He’s responding by moving you to a level where you can now flow in efficiency and effectiveness without the hindrances that once held you back.

But know this: Understand that the sacrifice you made to get to this next level is now the new normal for you. As you answered the Lord’s call and set yourself at His feet, you entered into a season of separation in which you turned down your plate, turned off the TV and the phone and spent time pressing into the presence of God to seek His face and not just His hand. This prayer commitment, to seek this deeper level of intimacy with the King of Kings, was once a sacrifice, but now it must become a lifestyle because this is what it will take to maintain this new level of sensitivity and intensity. In short, to whom much is given, much is required so it’s necessary that you count the cost of what this will require of you as you step up to this new level.

Therefore, this day marks a day of decision for you. What will you do? Which will you choose? The Father is awaiting your answer.

1 Corinthians 1:4-7

“I thank my God always on your behalf, for the grace of God which is given you by Jesus Christ; That in every thing ye are enriched by him, in all utterance, and in all knowledge; Even as the testimony of Christ was confirmed in you: So that ye come behind in no gift; waiting for the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ:”

1 Corinthians 1:26-31

“For ye see your calling, brethren, how that not many wise men after the flesh, not many mighty, not many noble, are called: But God hath chosen the foolish things of the world to confound the wise; and God hath chosen the weak things of the world to confound the things which are mighty; And base things of the world, and things which are despised, hath God chosen, yea, and things which are not, to bring to naught things that are: That no flesh should glory in his presence. But of him are ye in Christ Jesus, who of God is made unto us wisdom, and righteousness, and sanctification, and redemption: That, according as it is written, He that glorieth, let him glory in the Lord.”

Top Ten Reasons I Wrote Trinity's Hope #6

2011-04-02T21:56:00.001-04:00

Hey Everyone,

I know it's been a minute since I've added to my Top Ten List, but it's time I get you all caught up! Since the release of Trinity's Hope, I've been super busy. But not so busy that I didn't take the time reflect on the process. And believe me, the process of producing this book was a long, sometimes exasperating journey.

Nevertheless, there were lessons learned. Which leads me to 6th reason I wrote this book:

The message in Trinity's Hope had to be released. This was a calling God placed on my life that I had to fulfill.

In spite of that, there were many times I wanted to give up and walk away from this project. From the early days when I had very little confidence in my abilities, through the silent years when it sat dormant while my life took a series of unexpected twists and turns, to the struggles to come to a meeting of the minds with those who were partnering with me to produce the book. Throughout all this, my flesh got weak, my mind got weary and my temper led me to ugly places - more than once.

But God was ever faithful to bring me back center. To focus on His calling and His purpose for the book.

He did this by reminding me that this was not just my book, but His inspired vision. A love letter from His heart to His children who need to understand some things about Him and His ways. You see, There is a way that seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death. (Proverbs 16:25). This is so true when it comes to issues of the heart. Especially in the African American church.

For many reasons, we simply don't have a proper "God-perspective" of love and romance, dating and marriage. Many not only struggle with sexual sin, but they have no idea of the eternal consequences of fornication, adultery and homosexuality. The word is very clear: Having sex outside of marriage (between a man and woman) is a sin and if you die in that sin, you will go to hell. That's not a threat...it's a reality based on the Word of God.

The bigger issue with sexual sin in the church is that this blatant ignorance and/or disregard of God's commands have been passed down generationally and now some of our children are simply out of control. From pregnancy pacts, to "hookin' up, to gang rapes, our ignorance as a people has caused us to sow seeds of destruction in the lives of our legacy and some of their lives mirror more of the world's ways than God's character. And God has charged me to help change this through my books, through mentoring and teaching the truth.

Purity (Abstinence, Celibacy) is God's desire for His sons and daughters who are not married. He desires that they draw near to Him so that He can reveal His blueprint, His plan for their lives. He desires to show them their purpose and get them moving in that direction. This is so important because the purpose that's dwelling on the inside of each of us is tied to the need in someone else's life. Like an invisible spiritual pipeline, we all have something wonderful and needful to share with others and if we're not in our proper place, aligned with our purpose, someone is going to miss out on their blessing.

For me, that purpose is being a writer who writes books that celebrate love and romance the way God intended. Which is one of the Top Ten Reasons I wrote Trinity's Hope! And based on some of the reviews that are just coming in, God has allowed me to hit the target dead on:

"This book has blessed my life in so many ways. Before reading Trinity's Hope I had so many questions that were unanswered from my parents for years concerning life and its challenges, and as a result of those unanswered questions from my mother and father they were all answered in this book. . . The impartations I've received from Trinity's Hope are definitely eternal."

"This book made me see things in life so much differently and made me have a better connection with God. I know I cried at least an hour while reading this book. I recommend this to all teenagers, even adults who need inspiration on finding out what God has created them to do."

I am truly blessed and humbled by what God is doing in the lives of these young ladies. I could not have asked for a better outcome. And I am so thankful that I didn't succumb to the pressure and give up. These testimonies were worth all the struggles.

Be blessed and be sure to get a copy of Trinity's Hope for the young ladies in your life. Truly this is not about me. Every book sold represents a life changed!

Peace,

Melissa

Trinity's Hope is available on Amazon.com and Barnes and Noble. Personally autographed copies are available via my website: www.writtenworks.net.

It's Here!

2011-03-12T17:43:00.003-05:00

After much labor, love and patience, Trinity's Hope ~ Book #1 in the Carondolette Family Series is available. Get your copy today!!!

http://search.barnesandnoble.com/Trinitys-Hope/Melissa-Ewell-Miller/e/9780978789947/?itm=2&USRI=trinity%27s+hope

New Year, New Promises, New Plans

2011-01-12T14:58:00.001-05:00

Happy New Year!

I hope this year has brought you the promise of a new possibilities, new plans and the promises of new successes. For me, I find myself sitting on a new sofa, in the living room of a new house in a new city. And as I looked out the window at the pristine white snow blanketing everything, the Lord reminded me of a petition I placed before Him around the middle of last year.

At the time, I was living in a city where I must at admit, I was not happy. The decision to move there involved reasons that were not very pleasant, nevertheless necessary. After four years with less than favorable outcomes, the question became, "Lord, why am I still here?" Before I was able to verbally articulate my desire for change, my spirit was crying out for a different place. A new place. A fresh place where I my creative juices could flow again. I remember saying to the Lord;

"I want to be in a quiet place with a more simplistic way of life. Not so busy, but a nice environment with something nice to look at."

I longed for a community of people - friends and family who we could spend time with. A peaceful place where I could rediscover my literary voice and finally heed the voices of those characters who've been asking for their stories to be told.

In that moment as I shared this unspoken request, I thought it was simply the musings of a lonely heart, but as time progressed, the Lord began whispering back about change. Another move - one that would bring the promise of fulfillment. Even as the plan started to take shape, obstacles arose and I questioned if this move would or could happen. Then Father whispered to me...

"I'm trying to answer your prayer. I'm trying to give you what you asked for so just have faith and let me do this for you."

Taking His words to heart, I did just that. I laid hold to the promise. I applied my faith. I trusted, I believed, I rested in His promise and the certainty in His voice. Now, I'm here. Just where I need to be. Exactly where I wanted to be.

Sitting on my new sofa, in the living room of my new home, looking out the window at the snow glistening in the morning sun, in this quiet little community, surrounded by friends and family who have welcomed us so graciously. I'm rejoicing in the promise fulfilled. I'm getting back to work, reviving my dream while helping others fulfill theirs and making plans for future successes.

God is so good and so faithful. Don't you just love Him? I sure do!

"Delight yourself also in the Lord, and He will give you the desires and secret petitions of your heart." Psalms 37:4 (Amp.)

Top Ten Reasons I Wrote Trinity's Hope ~ Reason # 7

2010-05-08T13:22:00.003-04:00

One reason I wrote Trinity's Hope is to honor and celebrate the strong men who have always been a part of my life. I purposely include strong African American and Haitian American men as main characters in my stories because this is what I see in my own life among my family members, friends and loved ones. And yes...I'll say it...I think black men get a bad rap when it comes to African American fiction.

There are multitudes of stories that describe all the dogs, the cheaters, abusers, drug addicts, scoundrels and shady preachers, but all men aren't like that. Many are strong, faithful, loving husbands, boyfriends and fathers who love God, strive to please him and take great care of their families.

They come home every night from jobs that actually pay the bills. Their lives are open books that their wives and girlfriends can freely explore. They keep their word, make apologies or arrangements when they can't and their cell phones don't ring with phantom phone calls that they slip into another room to answer. They make sure their wives' cars have gas and the tires are properly inflated. They make time for their kid's games, activities and bedtime stories. They show up for church every Sunday, Wednesday and any other time the doors are open - giving of their time, talents and treasures. They support brothers in their faith and serve as accountability partners - confessing their faults one to another that they may be healed.

And yes, they may be overly obsessed with the NFL, the NBA, the NCAA and any number of sports related alphabets. They have those pesky habits like leaving their stanky socks by the bed, the toothpaste in the sink and other quirks that prove they're less than perfect. Even so they are quick to repent and try to make the necessary adjustments. (Or at least make up for their shortcomings on birthdays, holidays and date nights.)

I love celebrating these men who are committed to marriage, fidelity, family and the Lord and I will take every opportunity to give them their props. Every book I write will represent these men who may not be perfect, but at least they're putting forth their best efforts and making a difference. Especially when it comes to teaching the next generation of young men.

Case in point...I was at the bank yesterday when I witnessed an African American father and his teenage son discussing how much money the son should withdraw from his savings account to buy his mother a Mother's Day present. That was such a precious moment for me and I felt privileged to witness it. It's something I will never forget and one I never want to forget.

That's another reason I wrote Trinity Hope so that the world will know about these amazing men. I also want these men to be encouraged to continue to shine as stars in our lives and in our communities. We need these examples and I will do my best to put it out there through Trinity's Hope and every other book I write.

Pre-order your copy today ~ www.nevaehpublishing.com

Top Ten Reasons I Wrote Trinity’s Hope Reason #8

2010-02-13T01:24:00.007-05:00

Just in time for Valentine’s Day, I’d like to share another reason I wrote Trinity’s Hope. While some of my other reasons may involve weightier matters, reason # 8 is a simple one:

I love a great love story.

Yes, it’s true...I am a hopeless romantic and I love the idea of being in love. I love being in love with my husband – talking all night while listening to Luther, Anthony Hamilton, Heatwave, Coltrane and Hartman, Etta James and Chrisette Michelle all on the same playlist.

I love the way Barack loves Michelle and Denzel loves Paulette and Bill loves Camille. I love seeing couples in love – young and old – walking hand in hand and stealing kisses along the way. I love pink roses and chocolates, love poems and artwork depicting black couples in love. I love weddings and all the romance involved. I love romantic vacations in secluded places where passion is the first and only order of business. I love all the old school love songs that say something about the way love feels and the changes it takes you through.

I admit it...I watch those sweet Youtube clips of surprise marriage proposals. I get that warm fuzzy feeling when I watch jewelry and greeting card commercials. I read blogs and wedding websites where couples describe their journey to the altar. In all fairness, I do some of this for inspiration in my writing, but sometimes it’s just a personal indulgence, because I never tire of hearing how two people became one mind, one heart and one flesh.

And I love to read love stories. My absolute favorites are those in which the man is not afraid to be in love and he comes up with unique and innovative way to express his love to the woman he can’t live without. I love the kind of romance novels in which the couple goes through some stuff to prove their love to one another, because in my mind love equals action.

I believe that if a man says, “I love you” he ought to be able to articulate what’s in his heart and demonstrate his love in a real and authentic manner. I believe that if a woman says, “I love you”, she ought to be able to show her love through her words and her commitment and not just with her body.

And that’s how it is with Trinity’s Hope. The main characters, Trinity and Chris, don’t just fall in love and happily skip to the altar grinning all the way. While their initial meeting takes them both my surprise, they take the time to grow into love. They learn how to say yes to romance, but no to sex. They grow to value one another and understand their purpose for even being a couple. And they grow to learn that love cares, love supports and love covers as well as send tingles up and down your spine.

They experience the sweetness and the pain, the highs and the lows and in the end they make a life commitment that truly means something. They show the world that it’s worth it to do it God’s way and not forfeit their destinies in a moment of temptation. In a nutshell, they learn to experience love and romance the way God intended.

And they’ll make you believe in the power of love...

Trinity’s Hope truly is a heartfelt story of purity, faith and love and I hope it touches your heart.

Look for it in stores May 1st and make sure to share your thoughts with me once you’ve read it. Until then, please stop by my website and sign my guestbook so we can keep in touch. www.writtenworks.net. I look forward to hearing from you.

Blessings~

Melissa Ewell Miller

2010-02-08T19:17:00.005-05:00

Hi Friends,

Just wanted to invite you to read my latest interview by my friend and fellow writer, Sharon Ball. Sharon has been extremely kind and gracious in giving me a platform to talk about Trinity's Hope. Please stop by and share your thoughts!

http://sharonball.wordpress.com/2010/02/05/spotlight-on-author-melissa-ewell-miller/

Blessings~

Melissa

Top Ten Reasons I Wrote Trinity's Hope Reason #9

2010-01-20T17:16:00.001-05:00

Thanks from coming back to find out my top ten reasons for writing Trinity's Hope.

Reason # 9 To help young girls avoid the challenges of an unwanted/unplanned pregnancy.

Trinity's Hope is a work of fiction, but it's based in the realities of life. Unfortunately some of these realities are not so sweet to the taste. Especially for young people like my daughter. In her generation, she is confronted with some of the most staggering statistics a child could face. For instance, in several recent studies conducted by the National Campaign to Prevent Tenn and Unwanted Pregancy, it was discovered that:

3 in 10 girls will get pregnant before the age of 20. That is staggering!

6/10 girls who have had sex later say they wish they had waited. So sad!

6/10 pregancies to women ages 20-24 are unplanned. Surprising!

And we've all heard the recent numbers about children being born into single family homes.

30% of children are being born into single parent homes and in the African American community that number jumps to 70-80%.

This is even more staggering since so many women are constantly crying there are no good men around. I suppose that means the men who are around are good enough to sleep with but not good enough to marry??? (Sorry, that's another blog...)

Sadly these statistics have led to another sobering set of facts...

Research has discovered that the angriest demographic group in America are young men and women ages who are uneducated, single parents living in poverty. This group also has high incidents of domestic violence, assault and murder. Sobering, staggering and sad!

In short, our young people are going through extremely traumatic challenges and issues that are totally and completely PREVENTABLE!!! We don't live in a war torn country with armed military troops bombing our homes or shooting our neighbors up, but many of our best and brightest young minds are living in a literal warzone. Their daily lives consist of overwhelming circumstances that breed feeling of helplessness, hopelessness, frustration and anger. These young people are ill-equipped to handle the life they've created for themselves and then they lash out at any and everyone that crosses their past.

Sadly, the anger is often turned inward because the true depth of their pain is rooted in the loss of purpose, the loss of direction and the inability to set and achieve a positive goal.

I believe that everyone who God created and allowed to live on this earth has a God-given purpose. I also believe that everyone one of us has a God-inspired dream that lives on the inside of us. I unequivocally believe that God has implanted the seeds of destiny inside each of us. I absolutely believe that our greatest frustrations lie in our inability to connect with that dream, that destiny and that purpose and that is why our young people are so angry.

As it declares in Proverbs 13:12 Hope deferred maketh the heart sick: but when the desire cometh, it is a tree of life.

It is with this thought in mind that I wrote Trinity's Hope. Trinity's Hope is about a young girl who is confronted with these issues as she steps foot onto a college campus. Far from her parent's oversight, she's dropped into the middle of every conceivable temptation a young single girl can face. Yet, she's determined to hold onto her faith, her common sense and her underwear.

Trinity's Hope is written in a way that it offers young readers an example of what it means to be abstinent without ever mentioning the word. It offers readers an example of a young lady who seeks and finds her purpose as a believer, as a student and even as a girlfriend. She walks and lives according to her faith and not her desires. She learns to trust God to take care of her and she also trusts the man she falls in love with.

She trusts him to respect her faith and her desire to remain free from sexual entanglements. She trusts him to support her life goals and visions. She trusts him to be faithful to her and to their relationship and together as a couple, they do what it takes to obey the word of God.

In short, Trinity's Hope is an example for kids who've never had one. It gives kids a portrait of how a romantic relationship can be fun, satisfying and fulfilling without involving sex, drugs and slapping. Most importantly, it gives young people a different take on life. It shows them that life can be sweet and productive and purposeful when you trust God and follow His plan for your life. It gives them a vision of how they can be who God has called them to be rather than what society expects them to be.

And we know that vision is so very, very vital, because without a vision, our people will perish. And I do not want to see one more little black girl walk up to the church altar with a swollen belly and no ring on her finger asking for prayer. That's why I wrote Trinity's Hope.

Top Ten Reasons I Wrote Trinity's Hope

2010-01-03T00:26:00.002-05:00

Hello There!

Have you ever read a book and wondered why the author wrote it? (I mean in a good way). I have wondered and often wished I could get inside the author's head to see what led them to tell the story. Well, I have a several reasons for writing Trinity's Hope and for the next few days, I'd like to share my top ten reasons with you.

Reason #10 To leave a legacy for my daughter that gives her a foundation in Jesus Christ.

There is nothing more important to me than faith and family. I was raised in a Christian home where faith was taught and lived in front of me. I accepted Jesus as my Lord and Savior when I was seventeen and when I was twenty four, I married a saved man. When we had children, we began raising them to be Christians as well.

Now this doesn't mean that I'm perfect or that my family doesn't have problems. We do...We most certainly do. However, when issues arise that challenge our faith, we go to the rock of our salvation. We pray and go to God's word and other believers for wisdom and help. We trust God to lead us, teach us and help us every day of our lives.

Therefore it is my hope and prayer that my children will follow the same path - learning from our example. This is of the utmost importance concerning my daughter. She is the eldest and the first to leave home for college. Not that she won't confront challenges while she's under my roof, but we all know what goes on at a college campus. I know she'll face the temptation to get involved with sex, drugs and binge drinking...things that can mess up her life.

So far, she's avoided all these vices and is on track to do great things with her life. She's a committed Christian seeking to connect with her Godly purpose in life. She's remained free from sexual involvement and she's determined to wait on God to bring her mate. She has positive Christian friends and they all support one another in their faith. My daughter is basically a good Christian girl and more than anything I want her to stay that way.

But living on a college campus, surrounded by ravenous hounds and desperate females, the temptation to fall into sexual sin is greater than ever. Aside from being out from under our watchful eye, she's in an environment where guys can sway her thinking, pressure her into lowering her standards and make foolish choices. And let's face it, if other Christian girls who got all the right messages can fall down the slippery slope of sexual sin, my daughter is not exempt.

But I don't want my daughter to forfeit her destiny in a moment of indiscretion. I don't want her to have to deal with the guilt of falling into sexual sin, the hardships of being a single parent, the pain of experiencing an abortion or the horror of living with HIV/AIDS. That's not God's best and I want her to have God's absolute best. I want her to live a life of faith, marry a Godly man and pass that legacy of faith onto their children.

And these are the messages contained within the pages of Trinity's Hope. I wrote this novel about a good Christian girl who got it right so it would be relevant for my daughter. It wasn't enough for me to talk to my daughter about saving herself until marriage. I wanted my daughter to see purity and abstinence in action. I wanted her to see another good girl just like her, who prays about her mate and asks God to give her wisdom and clarity concerning dating and relationships.

I wanted my child to have an example of a young Christian couple who meet, fall in love and maintain a romantic relationship without having sex. I wanted her to have a tool that would strengthen her faith and not lead her into temptation. And I know there are other mothers out there who feel the same way about the girls in their lives. And I realize that if we don't protect our daughters and teach them the way to go, who will?

Therefore, if you have a daughter, a granddaughter, a niece, a sister or friend who is a good girl and you want her to stay that way, she needs to read Trinity's Hope. Especially if she's about to graduate from high school. Don't let her leave for college without reading Trinity's Hope...twice!

Trinity's Hope will be available in stores in May, but you can get ahead of the rush to find the perfect graduation gift by pre-ordering your copy today. Just click on the link below and place your order today. http://www.nevaehpublishing.com/book-trinityshope.html

Trinity's Hope is inspiring, entertaining, thought-provoking & life-changing - An investment in the lives of your daughter and mine.

And this is just the first reason I wrote Trinity's Hope. Check back to see the rest.

Be Blessed and take care.

Melissa Ewell Miller

2009-12-30T14:39:00.002-05:00

Exciting Announcement

2009-12-30T01:15:00.002-05:00

Hi Everybody,

I am so excited to announce that Trinity's Hope, my debut novel is now available for pre-order!

Trinity's Hope is a must-read for every teenage girl you know...especially if she's going away to college!

Trinity's Hope is the perfect gift for your HS grad and it's available to pre-order TODAY!!!

Reserve your copy now at Nevaeh Publishing! http://www.nevaehpublishing.com/book-trinityshope.html

*If you love your grad...Please don't let her leave for college without reading this book...twice!!!*

But Wait...There's More...

Destiny's Journey, Book Two in The Carondolette Family Series is also available for Pre-Order.

Just click this link for more details.
http://www.nevaehpublishing.com/book-destinysjourney.html

"But I'm Too Busy To Write!"

2009-12-18T01:07:00.000-05:00

"How Do I Find Time To Write???"

Are you a writer struggling to find the time to actually write?

Do you find it difficult to focus on developing your writing career when you’re being pulled in several different directions all at once?

Are family obligations and work issues competing with your ability to accomplish your writing goals?

Well, I feel you!

Like most aspiring writers, I’ve had to deal with the same issues and I recently had the opportunity to share my experience with some fellow writers and I thought I’d share it here as well. By way of a disclaimer, I’ll say up front that I do not get up, Monday thru Friday, and report to a traditional place of employment. However...while I don't have a nine to five to go to every day, I do have some unique circumstances in my life that most people do not.

My husband has a long-term medical condition which has left him unable to walk, sit or stand unassisted and our family cares for him at home. I have five kids, mostly teens ranging in age from 11-19, and my life is pretty busy. At one time I struggled with my family expecting me to do EVERYTHING around the house because I was here all day. I would spend my days keeping house and trying to write while rushing to my husband's side every time he called, whether he actually needed me or not.

And the same happened with my kids. Besides helping with homework, meeting with teachers, getting kids to this practice or that activity and making sure band uniforms were ready for the weekly football game, I was expected to be everything to everybody...all the time. In the course of an evening, they'd come to me with one interruption after another, not caring that I was busy, working to meet a deadline or trying to concentrate on sentence structure. Their crisis always became my crisis and what I needed to do, regularly got pushed to the side.

I eventually had to train them all, if you will, and get them to understand that what I do as a writer is important work. I had to teach them that it's my "job" that will someday lead to an income to help elevate our family. I had to show them the manuscripts I'd written, my publishing contracts and the emails from my publisher along with my goals, timelines and deadlines. I went online and showed them my websites and the social networking sites where I've spent hours meticulously developing my online presence and brand to build a following of readers who will someday faithfully buy my books. I even had them Google my name to see how many places I was represented online so they could see that "Mom" is a serious professional writer.

Once I explained all this, I restructured my life around the needs of the family and my work life. I carved out time in the day that's specifically work hours and time solely dedicated to the family. Two of my kids are in college part time and they help out with housework, preparing meals and taking care of their Dad during the day so that I can focus on networking and other writing assignments such as blogging and research for a non-fiction project I'm working on. I have breakfast and lunch with my husband, every day, and I turn off my computer and give him my full time and attention. And when the kids get home from school I get off the computer and focus on them. After they go to bed, I get the bulk of my serious novel writing done when the house is quiet. That way I can focus on writing while being available to assist my husband if he needs me.

We've had this system in place for the last year and it's working well. I'm getting the tasks done that I need to get accomplished and I'm still available to my family. They're learning to respect my professional boundaries, pick up behind themselves and I make sure to give them the quality time they need. Now it hasn't come without sacrifices. Because I don’t have a regular job, we live a very frugal lifestyle. I haven't been out to lunch with my friends in forever and I haven't watched television in months. (Literally...)

Turning off the TV was a personal choice I made because I get way too distracted and stressed out arguing with the talking heads in a box who can't hear me and don't care about my opinions. That one decision has increased my ability to focus immeasurably. Now I’m not saying that'is what you have to do. This was a sacrifice I was willing to make in pursuit of my dream and it’s worked for me. You’ll have to do a personal assessment of where your time is being spent to determine what changes will benefit you.

A simple way to do this is to make a list of every activity in your life that requires your time and attention. Begin by identifying the activities you have to no choice about and assign each one a time slot during your day/week. Then take a look at the things that can be delegated to someone else. Now you may have to lower your standards on the quality of the work the delegate will produce and you’ll have to give up some of the control (especially if you’re a control freak like I am). For instance, if you have older kids who can help with simple meals, you may have to choke down a hot dog or two instead that lasagna you look forward to every Thursday.

Once you have the required activities scheduled, take a look at the activities that are optional. And yes, this includes clubs, organizations, and volunteer activities. These may be important and worthy causes, but you’ll have to seriously consider if this time can be better served working on your writing career. That’s a question you’ll have to answer for yourself.

Lastly, take a look at your leisure time and even the number of hours you sleep. Yes I used the “S” word. I know we’re all busy as it is and most of us don’t get the rest we need. But it is something to consider and that’s all I’ll say about that.

But I will say this... It may be time to put away some of those writing craft books and use the time you spend reading to just write dirty and get the manuscript finished. Learning the craft is important, but there’s also value in learning from your mistakes and improving your work as you grow. Again, just something to consider.

And I’ll say this two... When you’re completing your time assessment, ask yourself why you’re doing certain activities – especially the ones that fall in the optional category. If you’re involved in some of those groups and organizations because they give you a sense of accomplishment or make you feel good about yourself because you’re making a contribution, then ask yourself if you can get the same sense of satisfaction from completing that novel you’ve been working on for the last five years. (I’m just saying....)

Also, when taking a look at your motives for participating in these activities, if you find that you’d really rather not participate in a group, but you do so out of a sense of guilt or misplaced obligation, then this is the perfect opportunity to cut your losses and get out. After all, you have a legitimate reason. You can honestly tell them, “I need to step out so that I can focus on my writing.” There you go!

Whatever you decide to do to make time to pursue your writing passion, realize that you’ll never really be fulfilled and happy until you do it. Zora Neale Hurston once said, “There is no agony like bearing an untold story inside you.” That story you have on the inside of you is not going away and the more book release parties you attend for other people, they will only serve to remind you that you haven’t yet accomplished your writing goals. So do yourself a favor and do what you gotta do to make it happen.

I sincerely believe that once I got serious about being a successful writer and set out to structure my life around that dream, it wasn't a struggle to find the time and the focus to write. And now that I’ve done that, I feel so much better about myself and I can proudly say that I am living my dream!

I hope this helps someone and if you have comments, questions or concerns, please drop me a line. And if you just think I’m crazy...that’s okay, too. You’re probably right on some level and I still want to hear your thoughts.

Blessings to you as you continue to make your dreams your reality!

Peace~

Melissa Ewell Miller
http://www.writtenworks.net/

Making Progress

2009-12-15T00:35:00.001-05:00

Just a few random thoughts on writing...and making progress at it.

I love making progress in my writing especially when it's measureable. I love seeing results. Writing can be a lonely existence for a writer. No one can get in your head with you and share the journey of bringing a story to life on paper that only lives in your imagination. As I talk about, laugh about and lament about my characters as if they're real people with real situations going on, I admit it can get a little strange. I've long since given up trying to convince my kids that I'm not crazy. I just tell them that one day they'll be able to see the result of all my hours, days, weeks and months typing away on these keys. I assure them that one day they will see my progress.

As I try and keep my writing blog up to date, especially with my novel coming out in May, I realized that I am in the in between season that I've heard so many writers complain about. Technically I am a published author. I've written a novel, submitted it to a publisher who has agreed to publish it, but as of today it doesn't really exist in the literary world. I haven't gotten the final edited manuscript from the publisher yet, and I don't have an exact release date, but I'm already marketing the book and preparing for the release party even though I don't have a physical book in hand. Until that day comes when I can actually hold my novel, sign the title page and hand it to a reader, I'm not seeing much progress. It's during times like this - that in between time that I need to see small steps of progress to keep from getting discouraged.

One of these steps came a few weeks ago in the form of a contract in the mail for two more novels to be published. Progress! I won't be a one hit wonder after all!

Another came today in the form of an email from my publisher with the first draft photo of the cover for my 2nd novel. Progress! BTW...I love it!!!

Another came in the form of an undiscovered review of my first novel that I'd originally self-published back in 2005. The review was posted on Amazon back in October and I came across it by accident. Nevertheless, it was a great review and it brought a tear to my eye.

I'd like to to share it...

"I truly enjoyed reading this book. It was a Christian love story that captivated my heart. I read this book during my lunch hour, at the beauty shop, and in the car going home. I hated to put it down. I loved how the author kept me wanting more and more. I especially love how that author kept referring back to God. We need more wholesome books that paints a picture of how people relate to God and how they trust Him completely. Hopefully, there is a part two. I just needed a little bit more about Trinity and Christian at the end of the story. It sort of left me hanging. I gave this book to my daughter to read. I am sure she will love it as well. This book sparked a flame in me that had been smoldering for a long time. I have long closed the door on my passion for reading and writing; maybe I can pick it up again. Thank you Melissa Ewell Miller for such a wonderful story. Readers enjoy!"
C. Franks' October 14, 2009

Just so you know what this means to me, here are a few of the tags lines I use when promoting Trinity's Hope:

"Trinity's Hope is Inspiring, Entertaining & Life-Changing."

"An Excellent story for Mothers, Daughters & Friends to share!"

"This is an endearing story of love & determination between two young Christians. An inspiration for young believers. In reading it, I was captivated.”

This reader got exactly what I was trying to say in this novel. Validation from a reader...Progress!

So in the end, is worth it to spend the time and make the sacrifices in pursuit of my dream? Absolutely!

Is it difficult at times to wait for progress to appear? For sure!

Am I growing as a writer and as an individual? Yes I am. And that's what I call Progress!

Take Care and keep writing!

Melissa Ewell Miller

Confidence Building 101

2009-12-10T13:47:00.000-05:00

As I look toward 2010 and the new things going on in my literary life (my 1st book release in May), I'm taking the time to do a self-assessment. With the help of my God-sent mentors, I'm examining where I am and what issues I need to address as I step out of the cocoon of my private writing world and onto the stage of the public literary arena.

One of the issues that immediately stands out involves my confidence (or the lack thereof). I won't go into great detail, but as an up and coming writer I've been plagued with concerns about my ability to compete in the literary world. I've had these kinds of questions swirling around in my head from time to time...

Am I good enough???

Is my craft up to par?

Will people want to read and buy my books?

Will readers take me seriously?

Is my writing authentic enough?

Is it relevant enough?

Will the readers get me?

Will they hear God through my writing?

Will my novels have the staying power in the industry to
sustain a full-fledge writing career?

And the list goes on and on...

But God... being the faithful Father that He is, He has not left me comfortless. I'm learning that this too is part of the process. Yes, there's that word again.

Process (v). To subject to a process or treatment, with the aim of readying for some purpose, improving, or remedying a condition.

I'm learning that my concerns and my questions are part of a process called validation. (Thank you, Kendra!)

I'm learning that it's normal for a writer to wonder, hope and pray that their work will be understood, accepted, appreciated and even celebrated. I certainly do. With everything that's within me, I want to realize my God-given dreams and fulfill my eternal calling. I want more that anything to be found doing what God has called me to do instead of sitting around taking about it. And I want to be successful at it. I want my work to be meaningful and effective, accomplishing it's purpose for being created.

And I believe God feels the same way because He is equipping me, preparing me and helping me achieve my goals. The evidence of His nearness is all around me - even as close as my own computer. As I searched through my files I found various nuggets of truth that I'd collected and written myself over the years that I needed to revisit and digest again.

If you'd allow me to, I'd like to share them with you:

“I want to write novels that are deep in content and purpose. Authentic works that are alive with truth and hope and love. I want my words to touch hearts, change minds and transform lives.”
Melissa Ewell Miller (My own faith statement.)

“She was able to make art out of the worst of circumstances.”
Said of Frida Kahlo (This is a huge motivational statement for me. When Frida Kahlo suffered a broken back, she painted in bed with a canvas suspended over her head. When she was too sick to attend a party in her honor, she had people carry her to the party in her bed. If she can...I can!)

"You see, in my view, a writer is a writer not because she writes well and easily, because she has amazing talent, or because everything she does is golden. In my view, a writer is a writer because even when there is no hope, even when nothing you do shows any sign of promise, you keep writing anyway.
Junot Diaz (Diaz suffered with writer's block for years and years to the point that he sunk into a deep depression. When he finally got his breakthrough, he won the Pulitzer! (The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao 2008) His experience has encouraged me to never give up!)

"To be successful in life one must have more than talent and personality. One must also be disciplined and focused. There are many talented and promising athletes and entertainers who never saw their careers flourish because they lacked discipline and focus."

Matthew Dodd (This one keeps me from slacking.)

"I was thinking the other day about the true lasting impact of words. Many of the books we call classics today did not set out to be a classic. The writers simply said what they felt inside and decades later the intangible message of these great writings still ring true.

I was thinking further about the idea of "legacy". Many people think in financial terms when they hear that word, but to me it means the part of your soul that you leave behind for others to "read". We are the beneficiaries of the legacy left by many great men and women that stood out for an exemplary act. At the very basic level, the best legacy you can leave is the best of who you are. No idea is too small to explore or too lofty to attain. It would not be birthed in you if it was going nowhere. 50 years from now if someone picks up your writing, will it still be speaking? Would you rather be classic or popular? Hmmm…"

Donnette Ekwerike, Writer’s Hut. (I love the way Donnette puts it all in perspective.)

"You're more than good enough. God never calls someone to do anything without first equipping them to do it well."
Kendra Norman-Bellamy (Enough said!)

And lastly, this is a poem I wrote nearly three years ago and filed it away. Dare I think the Lord gave this to me in preparation for this season in my life...

Ready, Set, Go!!!

"With every tick, tick, ticking of the clock, know that time is marching forward and we must take advantage of our Kairos moments in God.

Those divinely ordained moments when God mixes his finger in the lives of men and creates all kinds of wonderful opportunities.

When he blows the breath of His love and approval into the sails of our little ships called purpose, He's propelling us forward on towards our Destiny. Don't you feel the wind at your back...or for some of us...the gale force?

When He opens doors, we must not be too afraid or too intimidated to hitch up our wears and step on through. But we must remember to enjoy the journey since the experience is not ours alone, but an inspiration and a whisper of hope for someone we may meet along the way.

m. e. miller

1/07

(Gulp...Swallow) There...I just took a big dose of my own medicine!!!

Be Blessed!

Melissa

Trinity’s Hope Preview

2009-11-19T01:51:00.000-05:00

Hello...I thought I'd give everyone a little peek inside the pages Trinity's Hope. Enjoy!

Trinity woke early, feeling relaxed and refreshed from the time spent swimming at Aunt Angelle’s and Uncle Christophe’s home. Except for Mark trying to be the best friend she never wanted, to her surprise, she actually enjoyed hanging out with Daniel’s friend. The girls were friendly and with her competitive nature, Trinity loved dunking on the guys while they played water basketball in the pool. After a yawned and a long stretch, she closed her eyes and allowed herself to think about the tall, dark guy with the gorgeous eyes.

Picturing them in her mind, Chris’ eyes were the color of dark chocolate and surrounded by thick lashes that lazily brushed his cheeks when he blinked. A smile tugged at the corner of her mouth as her thoughts drifted back to the way his lean physique slid easily through the water as he swam. She could still remembered how his hand felt strong and secure when she held it for the handshake that made her insides turn to jelly. Recalling his soft, full his lips, she unconsciously licked her own lips, wondering what it would feel like to taste…

“Wait! Stop! You cannot go there, Trinity.” Scolding herself, Trinity threw back the covers and jumped up from the bed. Pacing the floor, she shook her head realizing how quickly she could be influenced by a guy she just met.

“See…see! You been here all of two days and you already thinkin’ crazy. You just can’t go there.” She fussed remembering the commitment she made to herself. “I don’t care what they else said about getting to know people. This dude is not gonna turn my head and cause me to stumble. It doesn’t matter that he’s polite or funny or even that he’s Daniel’s friend. Getting’ involved with him or any other boy can only mean one thing…trouble! And I am not goin’ down like that! Better to squash it now then cry about it later. Now what time is it?”

Trinity glanced at the clock and seeing it was a little before six, Trinity decided to get in a morning run before it got too hot. If she hurried, she’d have time to run, eat breakfast and get ready for the seminar that started at nine. After a quick clean up, she changed into a pair of running shorts, a baggy tee shirt and her favorite running shoes. She slipped her keys, meal card and a tiny can of mace into the inside pocket of her shorts and she hid a small change purse in her sports bra.

She’d been taught by her father to protect herself because a single woman running alone could be an easy target. Grabbing her white cap, she pulled her ponytail through the back and smoothed the covers up on the bed before leaving. Trinity headed down the stairs and stopped outside the front door to do a series of stretches to loosen up her limbs. She used the doorstop bar to flex her calves and hamstrings finishing up with a set of deep squats, before taking off towards one of the paths. Settling into an easy rhythm, Trinity felt the warm morning sun caress her face as she allowed her mind and body to run free.

Running was one of her favorite activities and morning was her favorite time of day. She’d started running with her dad when she was about eight years old and it became the time they spent one on one. As she worked to keep up with him, her competitive nature drove her to constantly challenge her limits to the point that she became a top distance runner in their region. With a natural love of the outdoors, running was effortless for Trinity and it gave her time to be alone with her thoughts and the Lord. Besides, the fact that it didn’t necessarily require conversation on her part, suited her just fine.

Trinity ran down a path that was bright with colorful flowers, over the footbridge and turned to head towards the river. She covered the distance easily and ran along the grassy bluff overlooking the mighty Mississippi. She slowed, running in place for a few seconds, taking time to watch the ebb and flow of the churning muddy waters before continuing along a path through a small grove of trees. She followed the path as it led past a small duck pond and ended at one of the campus dining rooms. Trinity decided to stop at the pond and cool down with a few final exercises. As she sat down on a nearby bench, she felt relaxed and mellow like she usually did after a good run.

“Man, I could really get used to this place.” She said leaning her head back and gazing at the crystal blue sky through the trees.

“Father God, this is so beautiful. I thank you for letting me enjoy it.” She said softly, closing her eyes to take in the scents and sounds around her. Before long, the smell of food drifted by prompting her to move on to the dining room for breakfast. When she entered the door, Trinity swiped her meal card, went through the turnstile and got in the short line. Picking up a tray and utensils, she waited her turn in line.

“Good mornin’, what may I serve you?” One of the ladies sang in a slow southern drawl.

“Good morning.” Trinity suppressed a giggle as the short round lady reminded her of Aunt Jemima on the syrup bottle. “You can give me some of everything. I’m kinda hungry.”

“All righty. Comin’ right up.” The sweet lady replied as she loaded the plate with grits, eggs, sausage, bacon, a fat buttered biscuit and a cup of fruit on the side.

“Thank you,” Trinity said as she accepted the plate.

“You shor’ are a purty girl. Anybody tell you that?” The friendly lady asked.

“Yes ma’am. Thank you.” Trinity said softly as she added orange juice and a glass of water to her tray.

"Enjoy your breakfast," the lady called as she walked to the only open section of the dining room where she found a solitary place to eat. Thankfully, it was still early and the room was not crowded. Trinity chose a table near the windows that faced the duck pond. Deciding that it was one of her favorite places on campus, she knew she'd be spending a lot of time there. As she dug into the delicious food, she enjoyed every bite. Running never failed to send her appetite into overdrive and she could pack away the food.

Trinity was so focused on her plate and the pond, she didn’t notice how quickly the few available tables filled up. When she did look around, she wished she had a book to read since several people were searching for somewhere to sit and a few were looking in her direction. Wishing she had a place to hide, she noticed a figure standing over her shoulder and recognized the familiar voice.

“Hey, anyone sitting here?” She looked up to find Christian holding a tray. He looked hopeful with a lopsided grin and a ball cap on his head pulled down so low it almost covered his eyes. For some reason he reminded her of a five year old – all except for those lips.

“Hey,” she replied lowering her eyes to avoid staring at his mouth. “I’m actually just about done, but you can sit if you want. I don’t care.”

“Cool,” Chris grinned as he slipped into the chair across from her. He hesitated briefly before removing his cap and bowing his head to say a short silent prayer.

“So he prays…” Trinity said to herself, wondering if it was for real or for show.

“Amen,” Chris said barely above a whisper as he lifted his eyes ready to turn on the charm. But his smile faded when he saw she was clearly ignoring him as she gazed out the window, sipping her juice. Chris took the opportunity to take a long admiring look, realizing that even in a baggy, shapeless t-shirt and a ball cap, she still took his breath away. Lifting a spoonful of eggs to his mouth, he tried to come up with something interesting to say that wouldn’t make him sound too lame.

“Did you have a good time yesterday?” He ventured swallowing the eggs after a couple of quick chews so he could keep the conversation going.

“It was all right,” She replied dryly not wanting to encourage him. “Swimming was fun.”

“Yeah. You got a pretty good jump shot. Do you play basketball? I play basketball.”

“No,” she quipped briefly glancing his way then turning back to the window.

“Oh,” he nodded feeling lamer by the second. “You goin’ to the seminar? It’s at nine, right?”

“That’s what time it starts. Look, I gotta go get ready.” Trinity stood, deciding that since he gave her an open door she’d take it. Picking up her tray, she left him sitting there, mouth gapped open.

“O…okay,” he stammered and turned to watch her walk away along with most of the guys in the room.

Without looking back Trinity deposited her tray in the designated area and headed out the door. She walked back to her dorm with a pep in her step, confident that she’d handled herself well with him, hoping he got the message. Chris, on the other hand, dropped his fork on his plate, his appetite suddenly gone. he closed his eyes and shook his head, afraid that he’d blown his chance with the most beautiful girl he’d ever laid eyes on.

Trinity's Hope will be released in May 2010. Looking forward to hearing your comments and feedback!

Thanks,

Melissa

Some Things About Me (That I Have To Put In A Post Because I Am A Wordy Writer & All This Won't Fit In The About Me Section...I Tried.)

2009-11-12T14:50:00.000-05:00

Hi Everyone,

I just thought I'd take a moment and introduce myself to some and get those who know me caught up on the goings on in my life. I think this need to redefine myself comes after I went to take a professional photo that will go on the back of my novels. After taking no less than a week to try and come up with the best way to present myself (after all millions of people could see this photo) I schlumped down to my local mall and went into the quickie snap and run photo studio. They took three poses and I got to pick the best pose. Yeah...I know. I needed like 57 and a glam squad.

Anywho...there's actually a funny story about the head wrap. At least it's funny now. It wasn't too funny then. The night before picture day, I gave myself a quick snip-snip with the scissors and the unthinkable happened. I cut a plug in my head right in front and as much as my kids tried to convince me that it wasn't that bad - it was horrific. Especially if Oprah ends up seeing that picture. 'Cause you know she will! Not wanting to appear like I was experiencing male pattern baldness, I opted to go ethnic and do the wrap. However, my daughter was right and I didn't have enough fabric to get the look I was after so instead of sister-chic, I got more of a middle eastern fez. Oh well - hair grows back and I think I can scrape up another $14 bucks for another shot in a couple weeks.

Anyway the entire ordeal of taking a photo had me a little freaked out. I thought the photo was awful, but the colors were bright and the photo was clear so I knew then it had to be the subject. My oldest son confirmed it when he said, "Mom, it's not the picture. You just don't want to accept that that's the way you look." OUCH! (That's what I get for asking a 17 year old.)

But he was right. The picture, which does not really show off my recent weight loss as well as I had hoped, had me wondering where all those lines came from. And we won't even talk about the gray hair.... But then I started thinking about that fact that I have changed. I have aged, matured, become more seasoned and even more appreciative. The following are a few of the things I've recently discovered about myself.

At this time in my life:

I’d rather have a good idea to write about than a good night's sleep. (That’s what naps are for.)

I'd rather be caught up in a creative flow, than a traffic jam.

I enjoy the peace of turning off the TV, turning on India Arie & letting the words flow from my soul.

I've discovered that solitude is beautiful & being able to laugh at myself is a joy.

I realized that even though he has gone through a lot of physical changes due to the parkinson's, my husband is still the sweetest man I know and I still love talking to him about everything and nothing.

I'm also extremely thankful for my kids. Even with all their faults, fights, quirks and schrimiches, they are pretty good kids and very kind people. Over the past four years each have had to make sacrifices which were painful for all of us. But praise God they are the better for it and I am so bless to have the pleasure of being their mom.

I've learned that God still and always has, had my back. Although in recent years I've gotten more caught up in the trials and tribulations and how they affect me, I've recently come to understand how much GOD really has everything under control.

I've learned that I don't have to accept every piece of bad news the world has to offer and I don't have to have an opinion about it. I've learned that some things are just not my business. I've also learned that I'm better off not knowing some things.

In short, I'm learning to take things in stride, not sweat the small stuff & appreciate the little things.

So as my girl India says,

Give me my guitar, give me a bright star
Give me some good news, give me some cute shoes
Give me Atlanta, give me Savannah
Give me my peace of mind

Give me some Stevie, give me some Donny
Give me my daddy, give me my mommy
Pour me some sweet tea, spoonful of honey
I don't need no Hollywood

But don't get me wrong, though. I wanna sell books cause I gotta make money. And getting on the Essence Bestseller list would be pretty cool at this point in my life.

Love y'all! Hollar at me some time.

Blessings- Melissa

P.S. I can't find the spell check on here so over look my typos. I am 90% inspiration and 10% grammatical perfection. And yes, I know schlumped is not a real word but it works.

Speaking of a nap…………….

A Little About Trinity's Hope

2009-11-12T08:40:00.000-05:00

Trinity’s Hope

The heartwarming story of a young girl’s passage to adulthood...

A journey of self-discovery & acceptance...

A story of purity, faith & love...

Trinity Hope Carondolette graduates high school and embarks on her journey into womanhood as she steps onto a college campus in Louisiana. Hailing from a family of Christian believers, all excelling in impressive careers, expectations run high for the youngest child as she stands in the shadow of a great legacy. Not wanting to disappoint, she figures the best way to stay out of trouble is to avoid men altogether. However, her plan goes awry her first day on campus when she is literally knocked off her feet by the handsome and unassuming Christian Stephenson, a fellow believer who falls hard for Trinity, experiencing love at first collision.

As friendship blossoms into love, the couple struggles to pursue a romantic relationship and keep their Christian virtues intact. Surrounded by ravenous hounds and desperate females, Trinity and Chris explore the wonder of a first love while trying to handle a rigorous class schedule, a deepening physical attraction and maintaining their personal integrity. Learning as they grow, you’ll fall in love with this couple as they work to define their faith and their relationship in their own terms.

Trinity's Hope is Inspiring, Entertaining & Life-Changing!

An Excellent story for Mothers, Daughters & Friends to share!

A wonderful resource for youth groups and book clubs!

"This is an endearing story of love & determination between two young Christians. An inspiration for young believers. In reading it, I was captivated.” Shades of Romance Magazine

Trinity's Hope - Coming May 2010

2009-11-06T22:02:00.000-05:00

I am so pleased to announce the release of my novel, Trinity's Hope!

Trinity's Hope is the first novel in the Carondolette Family Series ~

A family that stays together, prays together and lives life to the fullest. Overcoming poverty, loss and abandonment, Charles & Acacia have worked hard and believed hard to create a good life and a strong legacy of faith for their family.

Trinity Hope Carondolette the youngest child in this family of prominent professionals and passionate believers and she's anything but a typical teenager. Once on a college campus and no longer under the shadow of her parents’ faith, Trinity struggles to find her place and a way to sustain her personal relationship with God. While surrounded by ravenous guys and desperate females, Trinity experiences the wonder of a first love. Committed to keeping her virtues intact, she learns to make abstinence a reality, resisting the temptations that could lead to broken vows and devastating consequences. Explore Trinity’s world as she grows to experience life and define it in her own terms.

Trinity's Hope is Christian-based, entertaining and a must read book for every teenage girl. If you have a daughter, granddaughter, sister, niece or friend leaving home for college, DO NOT let her set foot on that campus until she reads the book!!!

Blessings!

Melissa

2009-11-06T19:21:00.000-05:00

Hello there,

One of the best books I’ve read on writing and negotiating the publishing industry is called

Spiritual Writing: From Inspiration to Publication by Deborah Herman.

As I revamp of my blog life, I thought this was an appropriate book to share with my new writing friends. This book as been a huge help to me and I hope this helps someone…

Back in 2004 when I was an aspiring writer with zero confidence in my own abilities, I was handed this book by a friend and coworker you saw an inkling of talent in my writing. Tony was a man of few words and when he spoke, his words carried an air of sensibility and made me sit up and listen. He handed me the book and simply said, “I know you’re struggling to get something down on paper and I think this will help.”

The funny thing was, I didn’t remember telling Tony that I was struggling to get something down on paper, but somehow he knew. I’d made several false starts to write the book that had been rolling around in my head for years. I’d been a technical writer for most of my professional life and I understood the mechanics of writing. I did it every day for a living. Policy manuals, desk references and training materials – I could do that stuff in my sleep. But this novel was different.

This novel wasn’t a step-by-step detailed explanation of how to carry out a government regulation. This novel represented a story about life, love, purity and faith. This novel represented the tenets of my faith and the issues I held dear to my heart. These were words of life that people were going to read, not because it was required reading for the job, but because they chose to read something they found important and valuable. I could not mess this up.

This story was my legacy for my child and every other young girl with a hope and a promise in her heart. My main character was a young girl from a family of overachievers who’d risen out of the depths of poverty and despair to accomplish great things. Having benefitted from all of her families pain, struggle and determination, Trinity was to become the voice of reason and the example of purity and abstinence for every girl who read my book. It would be (and is) a life-changer.

Yet, to my horror, every time I sat down to tell her story, I could not find the words. I knew what I wanted to say. I had the story memorize from cover to cover. I could see the images of every scene and I could hear every conversation in my head. I had lived with these characters for years. I knew them and they knew me. But every time I tried to sit down and tell their story, I drew a blank. Everything I’d put down on paper was flat, superficial and uninspired. I was devastated and ready to chuck the whole idea of being a writer when Tony showed up in my office with this gift wrapped package. By the time I tore open the paper and read the title, Tony was gone. As I started to read, I realized his work was done. He’d delivered to me just what I needed.

After reading just a few pages, my eyes were opened to the writing process. The truths I read helped my find my voice and gave me the courage to try again. Basically, it cleared up a lot of questions for me and gave me permission to just do me. What’s even more astonishing to me is that these lessons have stayed with me through six novels.

Here were the most helpful for me.

As I’ve mentioned earlier, my biggest struggle was just getting started. Chapter One were the only words I wrote many, many nights and those two little words were pretty daunting. But thank God Tony gave me that book because the writer made one simple statement that changed everything for me and it went something like this.

“If God has given you a story to write, it’s there. If God has given you something to say it’s there on the inside of you, but it’s not coming from you. It’s coming from God and the only way to get that story out of you is for you to yield to the spirit within, but God is the true author. The writing comes from you and your connection to God working hand in hand. You make the choice to be a vessel for this information.”

Oh…that made so much sense to me. Then writer the suggested that when you sit down to write, go to the header first and type the words, “Holy Spirit speak…” I know it may sound a little loopy to some of you, but I promise when I did that and waited a moment, I felt the presence of God come and the words simply flowed. I finished my first novel in three months and I’m currently working on my sixth. I no longer write the words in the header, but I never write a word without asking God to give me what to say. I am continually amazed with what He comes up with. It’s always from His heart, always based on His word and just what needs to be said.

This one tip had the most profound effect on me, but here are a few more that I keep close by when I need a refresher.

“If you have a calling to write, if there is an inner voice begging to be heard, you are already blessed.”

“Many writers hesitate because they are afraid of not being good enough. Don’t let that be you. Remember you have a message to share, from your own unique perspective. If you feel compelled to write assume that you have the ability. If you area able to get your fears out of the way and tap into the divine, you will have no reason to think otherwise.”

“Set your intentions. Be clear about what it is you want from your writing. Do you want it simply to help you reflect and deepen your understanding of life and it’s happenings? Do you want to publish your words so that they are out there for whoever can find value in them? Or do you want nothing less than a blockbuster? It’s important to be clear about this, because when you set your intention, events are put into motion.”

In all fairness, let me make this disclaimer: This book is a little on the “New Age” side. The writer makes a lot of reference to spiritual ideals that some may not agree with, but the book is not sacrilegious. It doesn’t try to attack or explain religious view points or differences, but it does address the challenges writers face when they write from a spiritual perspective. It’s called Spiritual Writing for that reason. In my opinion, in spite of the New Age inferences, the practical information for the serious writer is invaluable. The information is direct, straight forward and extremely helpful. I suggest you read it and if you come across something you don’t agree with just eat the corn and leave the stalk.

For anyone who has a desire to write, but can’t seem to pull it together, I highly recommend this book. It kept me from throwing my career away.

Blessings and much success to you in your writing!

Melissa

New Year, New Resolve

2009-01-03T14:59:00.000-05:00

Hi All,
My poor, poor blog was shamefully neglected all of 2008, however, I am resolved to change this in 2009. 2008 was a year that I am thankful to tuck away securely in the past. While I thank God I still have my life, my health and my strength (and a black president) - it was a struggle. I'll not go into details since I am leaving it in the past, I will say that I have to view each day as one with new mercies from God - a chance to start over and begin again. So look for more from me as I share Love Thoughts by Melissa.

2007-10-03T12:15:00.000-04:00

The LORD is close to the brokenhearted
and saves those who are crushed in spirit.

The righteous may have many troubles,
but the LORD delivers them from them all;
Ps.34: 18-19

As I read this word this morning, it really blessed me and I felt led to share. There are times when we face seemingly difficult circumstances - especially during those times when we're been hurt, mistreated or disappointed by the one we thought would never make us feel that way.

I recently went through such an experience when I felt completely and totally let down by friends and God. But in reality I allowed the enemy to deceive me into thinking I had been abandoned when in fact that was a lie.

The word declares that the Lord is close when our hearts get broken. He is willing and able to save those that have received a crushing blow - even bruising the spirit. The awesome thing is that He recognizes that the righteous may have many troubles and struggles, but He is faithful to deliver us from all of them.

I believe someone may be in this very place right now. You may even be searching through these posts for a word and the Lord wants you to know He is there. He says to you:

"I am close to the brokenhearted and save those who are crushed in spirit. I specialize in difficult cases and I have not forsaken you. I am only a prayer away. I know you are facing many troubles, but I am the Lord who knows how to deliver you from them all; Not just deliver as in bring you out, but to deliver as in place right in your hands just what you need. Now call unto me and I will answer and show you great and mighty things which you do not know."

My sisters and brothers - there are times when the last thing you want to do is pray. And instead of running everywhere asking everyone else to pray for you, it's time to face the Father for yourself. I promise that as you turn from dwelling on the situation to facing the Father, He will help you see things differently and show you what needs to happen next.

Simply begin by getting alone and bringing Him a sacrifice of praise. Don't rehearse the problem, don't complain about what they did or how bad you feel - just give Him some praise. And as you do He will pour the healing oil into your heart and restore your soul. After you receive then ask Him for the grace and the wisdom to move forward.

I know this is real because He has done it for me.

Never Too Old To Change

2007-09-28T12:20:00.001-04:00

Hi Friends-

I had the pleasure of attending the very first Women's Day service of a small church in my neighborhood. Being new to the city, we've met a few of the members and they have been extremely good to us - in fact they have been a tremendous blessing. The President of the Women's Ministry who hosted the program gave me a special invitation. After considering nor going - wanted to relax instead - I remembered that I had given my word, so I got dressed and walked across the street.

Yes, I know it would have been pitifully lazy not to get up and go all the way across the street - but I went and I'm glad I did. The church was packed and just about every seat was taken. The church is located in a geographically small area with about twenty church. The President of the Women's Ministry was determined to bring some unity to these churches, not only to encourage and strengthen women members, but also for the older women to reach out to the younger women.

There are many in the community, but very few attend the churches because there is a disconnect. Due to her faithfulness and her faith in God, she was able to bring together a number of women for this service - the first of its kind to birth her God-given vision. And the services was beautiful...A child gave the welcome, the choir of women lifted the praises and the word of God came forth from a powerfully anointed woman of God - encouraging us to "Hold on to the promises of God."

And in my estimation - the highlight of the evening came when the ninety-two year old pastor stood to give his remarks. Now understand - this pastor had never before allowed a woman to preach from his pulpit - no matter how anointed, gifted or holy. He just didn't believe in such things.

Yet after the Lord got finished blessing and speaking the people, He moved on this pastor's heart who stood and said, "This is the first time in the twenty years I have been over this church that I let a woman preach in the pulpit, but this is a breaking down of barriers."

Now if this man of God can respond to the nudging and prodding of the Holy Ghost and change a lifetime of a traditional mindset, we can never, ever say we are too old to change. I believe that because of his openness and willingness to move with the spirit of God, this will mark a new day and a new beginning in the life of this church as well as this community. Praise God!

So be willing to change. Be open to a new mindset and trust that the Lord will perfect that which concerns you.

Blessings-

Melissa

Broken Love - Broken Hearts

2007-09-08T23:44:00.000-04:00

I felt compelled to comment on the recent announcements of the impending divorces of Bishop Weeks/Juanita Bynum and Randy and Paula White. I also understand Charles Stanley's wife has left him - no explanation given. Just had enough.

I am so broken over what has happened with these marriages. I feel so bad for their families and churches. In all honesty, I was physically affected when I heard about Randy and Paula White and needed to take a few days to digest it. As people often say during times like this, "They seemed so in love...so happy". I loved when they ministered together.

This was a very daunting experience for me, since God has been dealing with me about promoting my book, "A Reason To Love: Intimate Tales of the Marriage Bed". Now more than ever, I understand why He insisted I write it. For those of you that walked through the process with me, you know it was initially difficult for me to write a book concerning intimacy in marriage. But now that some of our most high profile leaders are experiencing failure in marriage, it's clear there is a need to reclaim the power of the marriage bed. Woven within the pages of my book is so much wisdom concerning how married couples are to function in the privacy of their inner most relationship and it's not just about sex. It's about recognizing and utilizing the power of the marriage bed.

It was such a sad confirmation that both these couples reported that an excessive amount of time spent a part was a major cause of their break ups. This is especially hard to take since all were involved in ministry - in leadership where people are taught to follow and emulate ministers - as they follow Christ. (Weren't they?) Scary and disheartening. Are we as ministers all so busy chasing the dream of international mega ministry that we've forgotten that our source of mental/physical renewal and rejuvenation comes from the marriage bed - the inner sanctum of rest and fulfillment?

I know ministry can sometimes take a toll, but we must learn how to come back center and focus on our first ministry - home. When we read the story of Issac in the bible - After God prospered him and he settled in the land God had given him, the first thing he did was build an alter and honor God. Then they put up tents. They established home and provided a safe dwelling place for the family - taking care of home. Last they dug wells - meaning they attended to work. The pattern is simple and something we all know. God - Home - Work. How easily we forget, it really is about balance and our ability to see things clearly. It's not just about looking at numbers, trying to increase the bottom line or tracking the latest conference registration counts.

Lastly, and I know this may sound judgemental, but it's what is in my heart -

I just can't believe that in all those times when these leaders were before the Lord getting a word for the people, that God didn't give them a word for themselves and their relationships. Did they not have the vision and insight to see that they were drifting or flying apart? Did it matter? Did they care? Were they willing to give up the crowds for an audience of one - the one earthly love that mattered most?

Do we consider these issues in our own relationships? Or is it acceptable for a mate to be unhappy or dissatisfied while we just go along as if we don't notice that the spark - the interest - the love has faded? I pray not. I pray we take these break ups as a wake up call. Stop for a moment and take the time to lift up your eyes from your personal agenda and take a good long look at the condition of your relationship. And if you see something is not right, then do some house cleaning and make the necessary repairs before the house falls down around you.

My hope and prayer is that if any of you are experiencing martial problems that you reach out for help. Reach out to your mate and call on the Lord together. Then call on the Saints to pray. Yes - we as a body of believers must stand in the gap and pray so that the enemy does not steal the joyful gift of love, the awesome experience of romance and the power of the marriage bed from one more couple.

So these are my thoughts. Yours???

Great Opportunity - Open Doors

2007-08-27T12:43:00.000-04:00

Hi Everybody-

Let me begin by saying that I hope someone out there is reading this... If so, please leave me a comment - if nothing more than to let me know you're out there. Thanks!

I am thinking today about the opportunities God has promised and now giving to me. Thankfully, He's proving Himself faithful to me - allowing me an opportunity to have my writing highlighted in an e-magazine for Christian women. I'll give more details as the publication date gets a little closer.

This is a good thing for me because it is one of many open doors I've been anticipating. You see, when God makes a promise or asks you to believe Him for something, it's because He intends on blessing you. He intends on accomplishing His word that says - "I know the thoughts I think toward you. Thought of good and not evil..." He has already made up his mind concerning when and how He's going to bless. For us to receive, we first have to believe and agree with Him by saying the same thing. In other words you have to be a 'doer' of the word. That word 'doer' as written in 1 Timothy - Be ye doers and not hearers only...

Now that word 'doer' in the Greek means poet and the word poet in the original Latin means to create. Therefore you can create the word that you've heard by the words of your mouth. And believe me - that's key because you can have what you say. If you speak negative words or if you say, "That sounds good, but I don't think that will happen..." then guess what? You'll get just what you say.

Also consider this...the more you hear, believe and speak, the more the Father will reveal to you.

Next you have to step out in faith - responding and walking in obedience into that blessing. I had to learn to put this in practice myself. At times, it is difficult for me to tell people about my books. It's hard to give someone a business card or a flyer, but I have to step out in faith and do my part so God will have something to work with. He said He'll confirm His word with signs following. Well someone has to speak the word so He'll have something to confirm.

And it is the result of my speaking His revealed word to me, that have caused the doors to appear and to swing wide open for me.

So I encourage you today to begin to speak the promises that you've heard God whisper to you in the night watches. Speak out those things you've read in the word that have touched your heart. Believe it, speak it, obey it and watch the word come to pass in your life.

Blessings-

Melissa

New Experiences in Food

2007-08-22T17:04:00.000-04:00

Hi All -

So you know, I'm in a new city - Scottdale, Georgia (Atlanta/Decatur Suburb) and it has been a new experience in going to the neighborhood grocery stores. I started having car trouble right before moving and had to part with my beloved Beemer. :(

Therefore the journey to get around has been a bit of a process. I have friends who have been kind and gracious enough to get us around, but I have also gotten out to learn to work the transit system. Overall it's pretty good, but my story goes like this:

I check the internet to find a store on my bus line that I can get to on one bus - (no train, no transfer). I come across this place called the Family Food Mart. I needed a few staples, bread, milk, snacks - Sounds like it might fit the bill. I take my adventurous son Jordan with me and set out. (He's real good about carrying bags and never complains).

Anyway, we hit the road and get to the store which is actually in the middle of a heavily populated middle eastern/Muslim community and the store - Family Food Mart - is actually a Halal market. For those of you who aren't familiar with that, it's the term used to describe the way Muslim people prepare and eat their meats. Halal means lawful or permitted and under Islamic laws halal meat and poultry must be prepared according to established Islamic rites.

I guess in a nutshell it's nothing particularly wrong with this and as the nice man behind the counter explained, "It's the way we choose to handle our food and it is fresher than the Kroger or Publix."

Well since the Kroger and the Publix were not in walking distance and it was 99 degrees in 'Hot Georgia', I began the process of haggling with the man in the Muslim cap to come up with a reasonable price for some chicken. I also came out with fresh ground pepper in a plastic container and a bag of rice with a twist tie.

When we left I asked Jordan what he thought of the store and He said he didn't like it. He didn't like how the men gathered together in a tight space (the store was small) and he thought they talked to loudly. He said they made him nervous and I reminded him that it was the same thing that is said about young black teens. He was also a bit concerned that the chicken was in a plastic bag instead of the Styrofoam tray you get a Kroger.

Well let me tell you, we brought the chicken home, washed it, fried it up in a pan and enjoyed it for dinner. Was it a new experience? Yes. Was it different than what we were used to? Certainly. Did we have to stretch beyond our personal preferences? Absolutely.

But guess what? It tasted like chicken.

Who knew?

Nothing Constant But Change

2007-08-16T17:18:00.000-04:00

Hi All -

I am sitting at my old computer in my new city, thinking about all the things that have changed in my life over the past few weeks. New life, looking for a new job, needing to finish old books that will be new to the world. Seems like things are constantly changing.

Life, death, birth, transition - all words symbolizing that if you continue to live, you will have to learn to master change.

I've had to deal with the changes in my life when my husband was confronted with a life-altering illness. Right now I'm thinking of the changes taking place in the lives of two friends.

One whose wonderfully funny and supportive mother just lost her battle with cancer. Another who has just been sent to a hospice - again cancer. I think of the changes her daughter will undergo - she and my daughter are close friends and share the same birth date a year apart. I'm thinking of ways we can support her as she has to look forward to her future despite the loss she's facing.

Change -

The way life ebbs and flows
The way folks come and go
The way we live and die
The way we laugh and cry
The way we love and give
The way we choose to live
Seems to me that nothing ever stays the same
And if it does what does that say about us?
Have you truly mastered change?

My Love Thoughts

2007-07-21T18:21:00.000-04:00

Hi There~

Thanks for coming by to visit with me. I am so thrilled, silly-giddy actually - that I am writing books that people are actually buying. It's taken years and years of preparation, but God has finally allowed me to find my voice. And now I have another venue to share my thoughts. For those who don't know me personally, words - speech - talking - sharing seem to fill my life. And the amazing thing to me is that people actually sit and listen. So maybe people will like reading more of what I have to say. (maybe not???)

If you do know me and my works, please chime in with your thoughts. If you haven't had the pleasure, check me out at http://www.writtenworks.net/ or http://www.manfast.net/.

Let me hear from you!

Blessings!

Melissa